a feeling-led life
Feelings are the key, always keep on expressing them - ALWAYS!
Living a different way of life;
Living a feeling-led rather than a mind-led life: Living true to your feelings Living with and true to your feelings is different to how we all live. We’re not taught it by following the example of our parents because they are living untrue. Our parents live untrue to all of their feelings so we do the same, then pass that negative way of life onto our children. Living true to and with your feelings is different from living with your mind. It’s not composed to laws, it’s non-controlling, completely accepting, unconditional - it’s a totally free and so the opposite approach to how we are. And yet it’s mostly unknown on our world. Some people are not as controlling and live closer to their feelings, however still they will not be living completely true to their feelings. And other people live very heavily dominated and controlled by their minds and their beliefs about what is right and wrong. We’ve all grown up being taught that our bad feelings are generally bad and we should do all we can to get rid of them. We should use our mind to make ourselves feel good, however in doing so we’re denying ourselves many feelings which are vital aspects of ourselves, and so will and can never feel truly good. So we’re forced into living unreal and untrue lives pretending all the things we do that we believe make us feel good are making us feel good. To do your childhood repression healing you are setting out to live a feeling-led life, rather than a mind-led one. And to break down the control of your mind giving over to your feelings means having to break down and get rid of every controlling belief and behaviour pattern. And, as such negative beliefs and behaviours have been put in place right from conception through all your forming years, there’s a lot that you’ll have to let go of. So our childhood repression healing is extremely hard to do. And you can’t do it by using your mind. Your mind is already functioning against you and it’s not about to go against itself, so all you can do is look to your feelings, hence the focus and concerted effort to live by accepting every feeling, expressing it, and uncovering the truth of why you are feeling it. To give you something of an idea of living a feeling-led way, it goes something like this: Let’s say your an employee and something your boss or supervisor does makes you feel bad - you feel angry with him. So what do you do with this anger? Do you use your mind to somehow make it go way? Do you believe you should stand up to him and have it out with him? Do you believe you should not let it get to you, bury your anger and try to ‘rise above’ it - and him? All of this being things you do with your mind to try and solve your problem. And ideally you’d like your boss to change, to not do what he’s doing that makes you angry; to stop treating you how he is in that bad way, but you can’t make him change. Or perhaps you believe you can and so by speaking to him about your problem he might see the ‘error of his ways’. Again, it’s all mind stuff. And perhaps it’s only your perspective how you see things that is wrong, that your boss isn’t wrong, it’s only your incorrect beliefs that think he should be some other way than he is - then what do you do? If you are humble enough to even consider this side of it, how do you then set about changing yourself so he won’t make you angry? And if you manage to come up with some way to do it, it will still be by using your mind. You are applying your mind to fix and control your life. You are using your mind to try and make your life how you want to be. And you think this is the right way to live because it’s all you know. It was how you were parented, the whole world does it, and so should you. And the more effectively - so you believe - you can do it, the more successful you will be in your life. It’s all simply a matter of controlling and creating your own reality - yet is it? What if there is a different way to be? You look at life simplistically: the boss is a shit-head, you know better than him, your anger is a natural result of his stupidity and incompetence or whatever, and really if you were the boss then everything would be fine. And why it would be fine is because you would no longer feel angry. And to stop yourself feeling angry is what it’s all about - isn’t it? To make your problem go away, which really is the anger, your bad feeling, your feeling bad, and actually not your boss, is what you’re trying to do. Anything to get rid of that bad feeling. And if you succeed then you are happy, happy because you feel you are the master of your own destiny: you can control yourself - you can control your own feelings! And isn’t this exactly what your parents wanted you to do, isn’t it what they DID with you? When the child makes its parent feel bad, the parent feels bad - obvious, right? So what does the parent try to do? It tries to get rid of the problem, the annoying child that is making it feel bad has to go. It tries to stop its child doing whatever it is that’s making it feel bad. But really all it’s doing is trying to stop itself from feeling bad. The bad feelings are the BAD things, really not the child. And what if that which the child is doing is right, that it shouldn’t be stopped, what then does the parent do when its child makes it feel bad? What if suddenly the onus is on the parent and not the child? What if the child is NOT wrong, but the parent is. The parent is wrong for feeling bad. So what can the parent then do to stop feeling bad. And so do you see, it’s back with the boss. The parent unconsciously believes the child is the boss, the child has power over it, is the dominant one, is stopping it from having the life it wants to have - one that makes it feel good and NOT bad. It’s the child and the boss making you the parent/adult feel bad, they are wrong - not you. But I say again, what if in fact it’s you who are wrong and your child and the boss are right - what do you do then? How do you deal with the problem seeing yourself as the bad one? And how do you know which is the right way to see it? To live the way of your feelings is a different approach to life, requiring something of a different attitude, and indeed, even different beliefs and mental perspective. To do your childhood repression healing all begins by you understanding and then accepting that all you are is wrong. That you exist in a negative, self-denying state of mind and will, with your mind in control of you denying your feeling expression. Then you can look to yourself in every situation in this light, in every feeling you have. So when you feel bad, you can use that bad feeling to find out what it wants to show you about what happened during your early childhood to make you feel the same way. You are in the ‘wrong’ as you have a bad feeling, so why are you. It’s to understand that now as an adult, EVERY feeling you have, good or bad, can take you back into your early life so you can uncover the truth of what went on during it. It’s to understand that every bad feeling in particular, as they are the annoying ones, that you feel now in your adult life is ONLY making you feel bad because it’s triggering and connecting with the same bad feelings from your early life. So when your boss or child pisses you off and you start to feel bad, you stop and look into yourself. You don’t come down on your child or boss trying to deny and control your bad feelings so your anger at your child or boss goes away, instead you want to know why you are feeling this bad feeling, what is this anger now showing you about your early childhood. And you use it to take you back down and into your forgotten self, doing this by accepting it, expressing it (mostly speaking about it to a friend) and longing for, and so finding, the truth. And you’ll find that your boss or child are in some way representing someone in your early life, someone like your mother, father, grandmother, an uncle perhaps, some influential controller person who IS dominating you, making you do what they want and stopping you doing what you want and being how you want to be. And as you speak about and speak out all your anger, you’ll see why you feel angry, that how they treated you when you were young made you feel powerless, it was unloving, that they were rejecting you making you feel bad - angry. And us you understand this aspect of your relationship with this person, as you uncover the truth, then so you will be ‘healing’ changing all the negative controlling belief and behaviour patterns in you that you developed in response to this treatment of you. You will be healing this aspect of your childhood repression. You’ll be giving up and letting go of the control of your mind, allowing yourself to live true to your feelings, allowing yourself to become feeling-led rather and mind-dominated. So there is no need to take on your boss or beat up your child. You go with the bad feelings they are helping you to feel. You don’t reject these feelings. You do the opposite and accept them all. And so by accepting them all you’re going to allow yourself to feel as angry and pissed off as you feel. And all of this anger you express to your partner or friend when you can. You own it all, you take full responsibility for your own feelings, you don’t dump them on your child or boss - you don’t take it out on them; and you use them to try and find out what went on when you were little that made you feel angry this way. And when the truth comes it’s amazing to see that it was your parents or a carer in your early life that made you angry, and why they did, what they were doing to you to make you feel so angry. And you see in actuality it has nothing to do with your child or the boss. They are only there helping to stimulate bad feelings in you, all of which life is very good at doing. So you are looking at your own reflection, in that they are mirroring yourself back to you. If you feel angry with them, it’s not them, but it’s you feeling angry with yourself, with your parents, and they being angry with you. And once you pin it all squarely on the person who it was in your beginning years that pissed you off, that was unloving to you, that hurt you, then you wake up to seeing that really it doesn’t have anything to do with your boss or child after all. It has ALL to do with your parents. And the incredible thing is that once you’ve healed all the bad feelings and seen all the truth you need to see, suddenly, and because you no longer have such negative patterns within you, your boss won’t make you angry when he does the exact same thing, nor will your child. And it’s amazing to see and feel how much you’ve changed. You might have changed so much so that you become the opposite to how you were, with the thing your boss or child did that made you really angry, now making you like them finding their actions endearing. Or, in regards to your boss, you might find when you’ve seen all the truth you’ve needed to see through your feelings, when he’s served his purpose of helping you heal more of your childhood repression, that suddenly he’s gone, he’s moved to new position, or suddenly you are moved away from him or you leave the company. But one way or another your life will change, and without you having to do anything more than simply keep expressing and honouring your bad feelings and uncovering the truth of them. Then you start living true to your feelings. Then you start living a feeling-led life. And gradually you give up the control with your mind, you let go, you surrender to your feelings, living in each feeling-moment seeing what you feel. And it’s quite remarkable how little you actually need your mind. You don’t need it at all to control your life and to ‘make it work for you’. Your feelings will see to all of that. You only use your mind to orgainise and carry out what your feelings make you feel like doing, and you use it to help put into perspective the truth, personal insights and understanding that come to you. And all of this is letting go of your negative feeling-denying state of being, starting to live with a positive mind and will, living true to your feelings by being completely feeling-accepting. The very opposite way of life to all you have known. And so you stop trying to control your children as you heal all the control your parents had over you, and less and less do other people or anything make you angry because you don’t feel threatened or powerless by them. And bizarrely, you feel that through you feelings in some sort of way, you are even gaining more control in your life than you ever had - all by giving up your minds control! You are gaining your own natural power and good loving feelings through your feeling-acceptance and this makes you feel really good and happy about yourself and life. All because, as you will feel, it’s the right way you’re meant to live, how you’ve been created to be. Another example of a feeling-led life: A colleague at work treats me in a certain way that over time starts to make me feel bad. I’ve been working in the job longer than he has and yet every now and then suddenly he appears asking if I’m all right and needing a hand, and then when I say no everything is OK, he starts telling me what to do. Only little things, like, ‘oh well, when your finished make sure the such and such is done.’ And this annoys me as I don’t need him telling me what to do, he isn’t my supervisor, and the longer I let it go on, the more angry and resentful of him I feel. So what do I do? Do I tell him to fuck off and stop telling me what to do? And do I tell him with my anger speaking, or do I tell him ‘nicely’? Or, as the things are only little and really of no concern, do I just ignore him, telling myself that he can’t help being how he is, he’s that sort of person, and just say ‘yes, I’ll do that’ to placate him so he goes away. Do I allow him to have power over me or not? And why do I feel like he does have power over me anyway? If I didn’t, then as soon as he started to tell me what to do, I’d say, no, don’t do that to me, dealing with the issue there and then, stopping it before it went on and on becoming this huge problem I’ve now got to deal with. Or if I didn’t have the power/powerless problem I’d not need another employee to help stir up such feelings in me, so I wouldn’t be with them. But I don’t want to react to him using my mind trying to assert and maintain my power, I don’t want to fight him. And I want to know why his behaviour annoys me, why I feel powerless and like he has authority over me. Who really is he representing from my early life. Who was like him in that they treated me the same way making me feel the same bad powerless feelings? And why couldn’t I stand up to them based on expressing my own feelings in the moment, feeling that I have all rights to do so, loving myself, and treating myself as an equal to them? And as I want to do my childhood repression healing, so I go with my bad feelings. However I can’t start expressing them at work, nor to him as he’s not interested in how I’m feeling, I’m not working on my stuff with him as my friend, but I am with Marion. So after I get home from work, I put myself back in my bad feelings, feeling powerless and angry with him, and recount to her all that he said, the whole situation and experience, and all that I felt. And as I’m doing that I’m longing to know the truth of these bad feelings, wanting to know how they link up with my early childhood. And sure enough (it happens very quickly now because of all the work I’ve done on myself, it used to take ages in the beginning of my healing, and back then I wouldn’t have even be aware that what the guy was doing was making me feel powerless and angry, there would just be a strangeness between us I wouldn’t understand) up comes the truth, and suddenly I can hear dad saying things to me and treating me the same way making me feel the same bad feelings. I can’t remember the exact situation dad did it in, but I can remember the bad feelings and know he was the cause of them. And the feeling-memories are loud and clear, and suddenly it’s no longer about the guy at work, it’s ALL about my relationship with father - the truth is revealed! Then I go back to work the next day determined to stand up for my feelings. If the guy tries to tell me what to do when I know what to do, I’m going to say no, don’t tell me what to do. I feel that I want to stand up to my father ‘through’ or ‘in’ him. (I might also not feel like wanting to stand up to him, and I carry on working with him but becoming increasingly aware that he is representing my father.) And I wait all day long for him to do it, but it never happens. Then I wait the next day, and the next, and funnily enough our whole relationship seems to have mysteriously changed and he never does it to me again! So I don’t have to stand up to him, calling him on it, as I have healed this aspect of myself. Within me I have changed, and I know that in future I’ll be more aware of this aspect of myself, and if I feel powerless again in other similar situations I would expect myself to be more true to my feelings and say no straight up front rather than letting the thing go on while I pretend it’s not happening. So can you see, it’s not about tackling the problem head on trying to re-gain power and stay in control. It’s about going the other way by acknowledging bad feelings. It’s saying to myself, no, I’m not in control, and that’s my problem. I feel powerless, this guy is helping me to see that within me some aspect of myself feels this way and he’s only helping me bring it to a head, all so I can see it, accept this aspect of myself, and seek to understand why I feel this way. Which, when I do, then changes my relationship with not only myself, but my father, and so then with this guy as he no longer needs to symbolically be my dad, all reflecting my new level of truth. And when you understand that EVERYTHING happens to you in your adult life to help show you what happened to you in your child life, because your child life is still happening within you, then the truth can be found and all that’s not right, not in alignment with your true self - all that is negative - can be exposed, brought out in the open, understood, and then it goes. No longer are you negatively being influenced by your early life. New positive patterns, mind beliefs and behaviour gets put in place, so now I’m relating to my father as if he treated me with love and was himself positive minded and willed and all-loving. And so I treat myself this way, and so too the guy at work. So he doesn’t work his power number on me anymore because I’m not wanting him to, it’s simply no longer a part of my negative self-denying pattern (he simply can’t do it with me; or if he can, then he’ll get a very different reaction from me). So I don’t draw such experiences to me in my life. Where always re-creating our forming years, so if they are negative and unloving - self and so feeling-denying - this is what life will give us. But if we can heal the negative then life will give us an all-loving life. And terrible things might still happen to us, just as they did to Jesus (who was of a positive mind and will), and yet we won’t feel bad, we won’t feel powerless, within ourselves we will still feel good and full of our self-love. And another healing example: Marion says something, and I feel hurt. I don’t block out such bad feelings as I used to, instead being able to now allow myself to sink down into my pain. I want to know why I feel hurt. I don’t try and hurt her back like I used to when I wouldn’t accept my hurt feelings. I no longer try to come up over her crunching her in a poor attempt of regaining my lost power. I don’t try and stop her saying what she said making her apologise because she’s the cause of my feeling bad. I allow myself to fall down my hole - this being an act of self-love and humility. I welcome my bad feelings instead of doing all I can to block them out pretending that I’m all right and not feeling hurt. I speak about my bad feelings to her, telling her that I feel hurt by what she has said or done. I don’t expect her to change, she is free to do as she pleases and say what she likes, although I used to want her to apologise to me and never do it again, just as my parents made me apologise and promise to ‘never do it again’. Now I just want to uncover the truth of why suddenly she is making me feel bad. Why suddenly she is not really the one making me feel bad, as I am already feeling bad only I’m as yet unaware of it, needing her to help me see and feel it through her actions and by what she says. So I want to know what my parents did to me to make me feel the same hurt feelings that I wrongly believe Marion is making me feel. (And I say ‘wrongly’ because I’ve now been through so many healing experiences blaming Marion as being the cause of my hurt, yet when I’ve expressed and uncovered the truth of my pain, then I’ve not felt hurt by what she said or did at all. And in fact, many of these things I have blamed Marion for being unloving and not treating me with respect, and yet once I’ve healed my hurt, I’ve come right around to see that actually she is being loving and very respectful of me. And that I was the one disrespecting and being unloving of myself, not her, just as my parents were to me.) Speaking about my bad feelings is all I can do. And so I speak and long for the truth of them. And I speak and speak and Marion adds her bits in response to what I’m saying - how it makes her feel, and we keep going until the truth comes. And in time it does. And then I can see what it is. Then I can relate to some aspect of my relationship with mum (in this case), and it all connects, and I can remember mum saying things to me, I can hear her words in my head, and I can remember how such words hurt me. And I feel like I’m three years old again, and I hate her, and anger comes up in me along with more feelings of feeling hurt and miserable about how she’s treating me. And so I have yet more bad feelings to express and uncover the truth of. Yet more to speak with Marion about. And what happened as only a little thing in our daily life together has now revealed a huge forgotten part of my unloving relationship with my mother. Yet another huge part of an ever increasing puzzle has fallen into place. Now I can connect with and relate to much of my own behaviour and things that have happened to me over the years that have made me feel bad but which I have denied, refusing to acknowledge as hurting me. And now I understand why I feel miserable so often with yet more of my misery surfacing. I have allowed myself to sink down into my deeper darker depths bringing to light some more of my story. And as hard as it is to see and accept, I know it’s true because I feel it to be so. It’s all too intense, too powerful for me to deny. I have opened up this part of my Pandora’s Box and let the evil monster out a little more. And I can accept more of my yuk bad feelings and let yet more of my relationship with my mother die. Yet another falsehood, the so-called ‘love’ she has for me can fade away into the oblivion of truth. Now I know myself a little better and I feel better too. And best of all my relationship with Marion is that much better, freer, truer and more natural. She can say what she likes and be how she is without my trying to control her, making her change by stopping her doing and saying those things that make me feel bad. And in a weeks time a similar thing happens between us, and this time I don’t feel hurt by her, I am no longer seeing her as mum in that part of myself. And I can accept and allow her to be free, to be as she wants to be without my judgement and criticism of her, all because I don’t feel she is mum who is rejecting me and treating me unlovingly. So our relationship improves as I divest myself of yet more of my mother and our unloving negative relationship. I have taken yet another step toward healing my childhood repression, and that too makes me feel good. Using your feelings to take you back ‘down’ into your early childhood. So can you see the principle of how it works. Our feelings are the key and we use them to lead us, first back down into our childhood repression, but once that is all healed, then on into our positive true and loving life. And each time we stop using our mind to try and maintain our power and control, which is only false power and control, we empower our feelings, which is our true self. We stop the self-defeating patterns of denial and rejection that we took on during our forming years, we stop being mean, cruel and unloving to ourselves, and we wilfully submit and surrender to our feelings. When it’s said we surrender and submit to the doing of God’s will, really what this means is we submit and willingly surrender - give in to - our own feelings. And as we do, as we start to truly honour them giving them voice to help us uncover the truth of our true selves, we are coming back out of evil into love. We are using our will to willingly end our anti-truth, anti nature and anti God lives; using it to become of natural feelings, this being our true way, natures way, and at-one with God’s way. So naturally by living true to our will through our feelings, so too do we live true to God’s Will. But as I have said, our negative patterns are very heavily ingrained in us - we are them, they are our foundation. So to hack them down, to pull them out and replace them with positive intentioned ones, is a very big job. And yet it’s what needs to be done if you are serious about healing all of your childhood repression. |
You child screams in protest. How much more do you need to hear and see to know what you’re doing to it is wrong!
We believe we’re supposed to love everyone, that it’s wrong to hate. But as we move through our healing we have to accept we hate everyone and everything more and more. And how will we feel after our healing? Well, that will be how we’ll feel.
You wouldn’t do the crime if you felt good.
There is a reason for everything, it’s just a matter of keeping on going until you find it.
As you become more true to the yuk person you are, so too do you become more understanding, sympathetic and less judgemental of other people.
The more you accept about your fuckedness, the less you feel you can do about it.
Hating and being cruel to the living. Crying over, loving, and idolising the dead. It’s all so easy when they have gone. It’s far more difficult having to deal with what’s in front of your face.
Being gay is no more wrong that being straight in the negative.
Is abortion right or wrong? What is right in the negative?
Our needs weren’t met as children, and we can’t fulfil them for each other, it’s too late, even though that’s what we want from each other. We have to fulfil all our outstanding childhood needs for ourselves, through our healing; and then once fulfilled we can come together fulfilling other adult needs in the relationship. But to try and do this now as feeling-denying adults is impossible. So unless you compromise in your relationship you’ll never be entirely happy with it, not until you’ve done your healing.
Our home with our parents is an extended womb. We absorb all that’s in it as we did when in the womb. If our parents are angry with us or with other people and things, we still absorb all that anger, believing they are angry at us, that we are wrong and bad, that we’re doing things wrong and should be punished. If we’d lived with parents who are always happy, we’d have absorbed their happiness, never feeling we were bad, wrong or should be punished, such things would never occur to us.
The pain is the way to the truth, not just physical truth, but soul and full spirit truth - the truth of the real you. The pain is ALL your bad feelings. The good, the TRUTH, is contained within all the afflictions we have, in all the pain we feel. If we embrace and express all the pain we’ll uncover the truth of our full fuckedness. All we think is bad we try to get rid off, thereby denying the truth. Truth is found through full acceptance - which is of course, love.
Your true friend, the one you do your healing with, is interested in you more than just the usual superficial levels of what you’ve been doing and what’s been going on in your life. They want you to talk always about your problems and all your bad feelings, and not just passively listen, but get into the emotion with you, connecting with all you’re saying and helping you to express more of all you’re feeling.
Do you want to just get rid of it, or understand what it’s all about? Do you want to just get rid of yourself, all you feel, or understand what you are all about?
We are getting to know what it is, what we are, by living it, seeing what we feel about it all. Don’t do as everyone says to do. Sit around and do nothing. Sit around and feel bad, as bad as you can. Don’t try and make yourself have a good life, it would already be good if it were meant to be good. Be as you feel. Don’t fight it. Don’t try and change your life. Don’t do anything but feel. Don’t deny such feelings. Be terrified that you’re going to fall into depression and never come out of it, because that’s how you feel. And whilst you’re feeling as bad as you can, SPEAK ABOUT ALL YOUR BAD FEELINGS SEEKING TO UNCOVER THE TRUTH OF WHY YOU’RE FEELING THEM. If you don’t speak about them, then they probably will consume you.
Be the victim
Drop the positive mental attitude Fall into it Allow your bad feelings to consume you Blame your childhood Don’t try and get over it Be the failure you are Don’t force yourself anymore to try and look on the bright side Give up Be contrarian Go the other way Express all your bad feelings to uncover the truth of them To corrupt someone into becoming evil taking them away from themselves, you work on their mind to interfere with their feelings. Training them to block feelings, stopping them from expressing the feelings they’re meant to express. Isn’t that how you parented your child?
If you want to carry on being evil and trying to make a go of it, then don’t be the victim, forget about your childhood, rise above it all, have only a positive mental attitude, think only of being a success, always look on the bright side, never give up, believe you’ll ultimately win - YOU CAN DO IT! Even better than that: ‘Just do it!’ And don’t express any of your bad feelings, deny them all, never let them get the better of you, and don’t seek the truth of yourself. Don’t even think about the truth. Just concentrate on believing that how you are and how you’re approaching life is RIGHT!
Our life is our childhood and we’re slowly waking up to how it makes us feel. And there’s nothing good in it for us, it was all for them, it’s only what suited them.
You’ll remember through your bad feelings as you express them, your screams and yells from childhood. All the terror and torture; all the pain, anguish and suffering.
We can’t help being how we are - it’s the life we got that made us that way.
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Only your feelings can lead you to a true life.
Another word about feelings.
I’ve written about it before, but I want to say it again, and it’s to do with my saying good feelings can be contrived by the mind. For what I mean by this is when you feel a good feeling, certainly it is a good feeling because obviously it makes you feel good, however it’s the underlying intention driving what you are doing to have the good feelings that might not be good - it may not be true. I used to love smoking dope, it gave me many good feelings. But I changed, and after having been doing my feeling-healing for a year I had some and it made me feel very bad. Instead of enjoying the numb, cloudy-mind feeling, I found it all but hurt me, it was so bad. I hated feeling that way. And what had changed in me was the underlying motives for smoking dope, I didn’t need it as an escape from certain feelings anymore, so I changed from loving it to hating the feelings it gave me. And I haven’t had it again since. So I feel that such good feelings were in a way ‘false’ good feelings all because on a deeper level I was only having them to avoid being true. They were of course still good feelings relative to the state of mind I was in, however once that state changed, they ‘became’ bad feelings. Or, as I like to look at it, that the good feelings were really false ones, in a way being contrived, or produced subject to my negative self-denying patterns, because had I been true, then I wouldn’t have felt good smoking, I would have felt bad, knowing inhaling such a foreign substance on purpose was not good for me. So when I say I felt loved by my parents, at the time I did and they were good feelings. However throughout my writings I say that such love feelings were not true, in that they were true so far as a feeling goes, but not true so far as having a feeling based on or being derived from truth. In my untrue state I felt loved by my parents and that felt good. In my true state I feel hated by my parents and that feels bad. So perhaps it’s incorrect of me saying good feelings are not always good, I should always qualify it by saying, of course good feelings are good feelings, what else can they be, only in one situation based on a state of being such good feelings will be produced, whereas in another state, possibly the opposite feelings might occur. What message I am trying to convey is that all what we feel to be good and loving and true, might turn out to not be as it seems, even the exact opposite. And as the truth is revealed and you change with it, so too will your relationships change producing possibly changed feelings. It’s the difference between using your mind to live verses your truth - based on feelings. |
The child has no power because we refuse to allow it to. It should have all power, and we as its loving parents and carers should do all in our power to ensure that it does. And if something were to happen to make it feel powerless, it showing us through its feelings of being upset in any way, even the slightest way, then we should do all in our power to make sure it feels good again. But we should do it with our feelings, and ones from our heart, relating to and so ‘feeling’ what it’s feeling, and not just using our minds pouring false praise and a lot of meaningless words all over it.
You can see a persons true colours by their parenting. They can be the nicest person, except to their children, because it’s all an act.
We are all mentally ill.
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Break the evil - talk to your partner about EVERYTHING!