power and control
Parents can do no wrong, and yet parents do no right.
Power and control
Some people would say that it’s right that we live controlling every aspect of our lives. That we should dominate nature and use it for our own ends; that we should make our children obey us so they will grow up becoming ‘responsible adults’. Responsible meaning: seeking power and wanting to control. However, is this the right way to live? Should we use our minds to go out there and conquer? Should we look upon the land as a place to lay yet more concrete, to plough yet more fields? Is it right for us to keep denying our true nature, keeping separate from nature itself, that which we are a part of? And it is right that we make medicines to remedy the effects of our rebellion against truth, all so we can maintain our false lives only to suffer increasingly as we move further away from our true selves? So it is right to use our power and control our lives at the expense of truth? At the expense of living a true life in a true way, all being true to all we feel. In considering all I write you will have to step outside what is considered ‘right’, and look upon it as being wrong. Then apply this perception to yourself. To consider being wrong is not what we’re taught is the right thing to do. We are right, right in all that we do, think and speak. To consider you are wrong in all that you do is to go against all that you believe is right, and this is what you are faced with if you are seriously wanting to heal all of your childhood repression. Many people know and accept things are not quite right within them, they are perhaps not quite perfect, yet want to do all they can to fix such problems doing all sorts of things they believe will help them. But what are these things really doing for them? Many people are aware of or wake up to traumas they suffered during their early childhood and want to heal their pain. And some feeling-based therapies and therapists can help them to do that, by accepting, expressing and uncovering the truth of such horrors they experienced during their early life. But once healed and feeling so much better, they want to get on with their lives of power and control, feeling they can do a better a job at it, of which many do. And some people having healed their obvious childhood trauma believe they have healed all their childhood repression. Without their pain, depression and misery they are now able to relate more lovingly and happily to life, to the people in their lives, even to their parents and family, with the word ‘forgiveness’ figuring very heavily in their new life’s vocabulary. They have regained the power and control they felt they had lost, and with renewed feelings of strength, feeling finally on top of things, can ‘forgive and forget’... and isn’t that the way so many of us have been taught to be during our early childhood? So on they go feeling so much better about themselves with their lives helping them to firmly believe they are now on the right path supporting their new beliefs and good feelings; going on and denying other feelings they don’t want to accept; going on overlooking many of those little inconsistencies in their relationships, waving the flag of forgiveness, being the benevolent one. But this is not doing ALL of your childhood repression healing as I am writing about it. This is only helping yourself to further your negative, untrue, self-denying state by fixing only a part of it, and mostly a minor part at that, even through the healed trauma seemed like such a big thing. And why I want to point out this ‘false-healing’ or ‘incomplete healing’ is so that you reader can make up your mind as to what you want. Do you want to live true - completely true to ALL you feel; or, do you want to heal only part of your negative condition? I want to make it clear that whilst we are of our negative states all is not what we think or believe - and even feel - it to be. Nothing is completely right, and mostly all that we are is wrong. I want to show that there is a lot to our self-denying way of life and state of mind and will, a lot that we haven’t as yet even touched on, let alone begun to study. If you choose to do your healing, trying to do all of it during your earth life, then you’re taking on a huge thing, it’s enormous and completely life consuming, all leading you to a whole new way to live. And one that is, if you could do it, completely opposite to how you’re living now. And I say if you ‘could’ do it, because although you may be able to live totally healed, free and perfect in a self-loving positive state, still some level of compromise to your material life will be required as still you have to live within a self-rejecting unloving society. However at least within yourself and in your own little world you will be able to live true - true to all you feel. I have written this in numerous ways and in numerous places and I apologise for the repetition of a lot of my writing, however I feel it’s vital to understand the bigger picture - as informed as I can make it based on my limited experiences - to help you decide about your healing. I can help arm you on the mental level with intellectual understanding, but in no way can I even try to pretend to know what your feeling-healing experiences will be like. In no way can I take away from you your feelings. |
We end up forgiving ourselves. All in the act of true self-acceptance, true self-love that comes from uncovering the truth through our feelings.
Dying is good!
Hanging desperately onto life as we do against nature, is wrong. Let alone believing it’s a sin to die. We all abuse our children, because we’re all abused children. It might not be obvious to you, but it’s there.
Verbal violence does so much damage, it’s even more crippling than physical violence, especially when it’s ‘acceptable’.
They hack away at you, and slowly you lose yourself. And once lost, it's so hard to come back.
We’re all battered children. Physical, verbal, mental, emotional, spiritual... we’re all damaged and in a lot of pain.
If the parent feels like shit, it’s not going to allow its children feel good.
‘It will be all right... it will be all right, you’ll see...’ No it won’t be all right, if it’s not all right. Allow the child or person to express how they feel instead of telling them to shut up and bury their bad feelings.
Last week she let him out of his pusher because other children were already playing with the toys. This week he remained in his pusher, as there were no other children.
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If it’s mind over matter,
then it’s using your mind over your feelings and you don’t matter.
then it’s using your mind over your feelings and you don’t matter.