Q/A
Why you feel useless, pathetic and a failure,
is because your parents made you feel useless, pathetic and a failure.
is because your parents made you feel useless, pathetic and a failure.
Q/A
How does our childhood repression form?
When you feel unloved, rejected, mistreated in any way, from conception through to around six or seven years old, you feel bad, and if you are not allowed to express these bad feelings, if you are in any way forced to suppress them, they remain repressed within you.
How do they remain repressed?
Throughout your forming years as a child coming into being you are developing mental, emotional, spiritual and behavioural patterns, these being based on your experiences of life. If any of these patterns are negative, that being formed because of feeling unloved, unwanted, uncared about - rejection patterns, then such negative patterns will remain within you demanding to be fulfilled, just as will any positive ones that will have formed because you felt loved, wanted and cared about.
So these negative and positive patterns developed during our forming years, affect our adult life?
Yes. However mostly we’re unaware of them doing so. And in fact ALL of our adult life is affected by them. They are our foundation, it can’t be other wise. Once our base patterns have been formed we can still add and subtract other ones as we move through adolescents and adulthood, however these are ‘on the top of’ and can’t affect those we’ve formed through our early childhood. Many people becoming aware of negative effects from some of their early childhood patterns do all sorts of things to bring in so-called ‘positive’ patterns (beliefs and behaviours) using their minds in the hope of counteracting the negative. And some people feel they succeed in this. However it’s not true healing, as still and buried even deeper under such added false patterns, are your early childhood ones.
So we can use our mind to nullify our negative early childhood parenting effects?
You can believe you can, and to some extent your life might show you that you’re being 'successful' in doing so, but at some point the whole house of cards is going to come crashing down. You can only try and run away from your repressed childhood feelings for so long, one day they will catch up with you. One day you will be made to face the truth of them.
Do we all have repressed childhood feelings within us affecting our adult lives?
Yes. Some people seem to have had a ‘worse’ more unloving childhood than others, and it’s more obvious looking at their adult lives that such a ‘bad start’ is heavily affecting them, but with other people it’s not so obvious. Some people seem able to cope and be successful in life, others can’t no matter what they try and do, and this is all simply the outworking and expression of their early childhood - how it was for them. If they were successful, however they define success, in their early life (usually meaning they were able to have some power within their family or life), then they gain the same success (have the same power) during their adult lives. If they felt too powerless during their early life and couldn’t do anything to gain any power, then so it will be for them throughout their adult lives. The way someone has power or doesn't have it during their early childhood won't necessarily be the same on the surface during their adult life, however the underlying ingredients will be the same.
Some people have a really bad childhood being abused, beaten, and with obvious rejection, and yet they still become successful as adults, surely you’d think they’d be failures?
This is where you have to look more closely at what’s really going on and see what you define as success. They may have had such an obvious bad childhood but somewhere within it they were still able to get power. Their parents might have abused them, might not have paid any attention to them, but they might have been free to do things they wanted to do when not at home. They might have been able to gain power amongst their siblings or peers or have it over animals and nature, all of which set the patterns helping them manifest such power in later life. And you can also live in a family in which it appears all very loving and successful by society's standards and yet you as the child were kept powerless, so you grow up unable to make anything of your life, being an abject failure in all respects. And of course, it's not just a matter of judging success in material terms.
So it’s all about power?
Yes. If you feel loved then naturally you feel your own natural power, you feel good, happy, confident and secure. You are able to freely and fully express all you think and feel in life. And your will being so empowered will be able to bring about all that you feel you would like to do. If you feel unloved in any way and on any level then your will will not have formed fully expressing positive patterns, and your negative patterns will make you feel powerless, insecure, unconfident and unable to manifest in life that which you want. Things simply won’t go right for you on a feeling level, and you won’t feel good, happy and fulfilled - loved, all the time. It's really all about feelings.
What does it mean when it’s said we’re all living in a negative self-denying state of mind and will?
That’s the condition we live in on Earth. It’s been brought about over the ages because of certain negative spirit influences that affected humanity long ago. It’s the legacy we now live under and we don’t understand it. Mostly we believe what life is, how we live it, is right, and if we don’t feel good or things don’t work for us, we do whatever we can to feel better and make them work. Only we don’t understand that all we call life, is living in the negative, it’s all self and feeling denying. It’s not right. Nothing of how we are and how we live is right. It’s all wrong because we’re living in a negative unloving feeling-rejecting and so self-rejecting condition of mind and will. So no matter what we do (unless it’s healing our childhood repression) we are only exacerbating our condition, helping ourselves move deeper into our negative states.
So all that happens to us that makes us feel bad is brought about because of childhood repression?
Yes, it’s the ongoing manifestation of your negative patterns. The patterns formed during your early childhood must be fulfilled, good or bad. And so they are, that is how life manifests for us. And as overall we’re living trapped within a negative condition then everything we do will make us feel bad. Only mostly we don’t understand this or feel it to be so, as we keep doing all sorts of things to ourselves believing we enjoy doing such things and that such things are good for us, when they aren’t. Everything that makes you feel bad, be it an illness, a material or relationship problem; a physical, emotional, mental or spiritual pain, is all happening to you because of your self-rejecting negative unloving patterns that constitute your negative state and childhood repression.
But surely some things we do are good for us, and surely some things aren't negative - what about all the love and enjoyment I do feel in life?
If these good feelings are based on true positive patterns and beliefs formed during your early life, then sure, such things are good and will remain so as you work your way through healing all your bad feeling stuff. However if they are false good feelings, that being feelings you believe are good based on your early childhood patterns, then the truth of their falseness will be shown up. For example, you look forward to and relish your mornings cup of coffee, it makes you feel good, or so you believe. But it is really? And the truth of this you’ll uncover by seeking the truth of yourself through all your feelings - good and bad. And you might find out, which might greatly surprise you, that you are actually only drinking coffee because your father did, and in fact you yourself, when free of such a negative influence, don’t even like coffee, or might still like it, but feel you don’t want it, and that you’re better off not having it.
So we have to get sick and bad things have to happen to us as a result of our underlying negative childhood patterns?
Yes. We are endlessly repeating, cycling through, all that happened to us during our early life. Not cycling through the actual things that happened to us, but cycling through the same feelings, good and bad. So for example, when it's time to feel powerless again and in a specific way, life manifests the necessary experience for you resulting in you feeling powerless in this way. Only, as adults this all happens unconsciously, but as you use the bad feelings being generated in each experience to help you go back into and connect with your bad feelings you felt (and still feel) from your early life, then you’ll be able to see the truth of your powerlessness. How having that car accident and all the bad feelings you felt, all those feelings of feeling powerless, were exactly the same powerless feelings your parents made you feel when they did x,y and z to you. And it’s amazing when you re-connect and see. Then you understand that the car crash only happened to satisfy the condition of your life’s parenting patterns. Why things happen to you no longer remain a mystery - the eternal unknown. We are meant to live knowing why everything happens to us as every experience is meant to generate truth for us. And the only reason why we live so out of touch with ourselves, with our true feelings, is because we were forced away from our true selves unable to truly express all we felt and thought when we were young.
So we live our of touch with ourselves?
Yes. By living in an overall negative mind and will condition, and by denying so many bad feelings, we live untrue, superficial false lives full of pretence, fantasy, and unreality. Our whole world is this way. And we live on perpetuating our negative, evil, self-abusing unloving states of mind and will wondering why we don’t feel so good, and why things don't go right for us. We are so far away from our true selves, so out of touch with our true reality, so misguided, lost and so full of shit, that we have no real or true idea about what life is all about. And we never will until we heal our childhood repression.
So we only get sick because of our childhood repression?
Yes. If we were living true and real lives with a fully positive mind and will, fully and freely expressing all our personality - all of feelings, emotions and thoughts - why would we need to get sick, we’d be perfect! But as we’re living imperfectly in our negative states, so we need to get sick all as a function of our early childhood patterns. Our sickness and pains give rise to bad feelings - those same bad feelings we felt as young children, the same bad feelings we’ve always felt but stopped ourselves from feeling; those same bad feelings we’re continually suppressing and keeping repressed; those same bad feelings we feel now in our illness. ‘Catching the bug’, or your cells mutating giving rise to 'sick' cells, only happens to show you something is wrong, that some pattern (belief and behavioural - some level of your self-expression) in you is not functioning right, that you are living wrongly, wrong because it was how you were treated and so wrongly forced to live as a little child.
What should we do if we have a problem?
One of two things. Either try to deal with it to ‘make your life better’, better being defined by how you think life should be, which will only increase your negative state; or, use all the bad feelings that come up because of the problem to help you uncover the truth of why you have the problem, that being what happened to you during your forming years to create the pattern that is now manifesting this problem. And in uncovering the truth you will heal some part of your negative condition and mostly your problem will simply cease to be a problem, or your feelings will lead you to know how to correctly deal with it.
Can psychology help us heal with our childhood repression?
Some of it can depending on how it’s orientated. We can use it to help us cover up and hide the truth of our real causes and underlying problems, those from our early childhood that are causing us the problem we have in our adult life; or, we can use it to help us move deep into our repressed childhood feelings, helping us to accept them, bring them up and out by expressing - speaking - about them, all so we can reveal the truth to ourselves about what is causing them: how it was for us during our early life with our parents and carers - did they really love us or not. The healing of your childhood repression is one long exercise of uncovering the whole psychology of yourself, and that being currently - the psychology of your negative or unloving state. And when that's healed and you continue to grow in truth in a positive mind condition, it will involve the uncovering of the psychology of your loving state.
Do you need a psychologist or trained counsellor to help you heal your childhood repression?
Yes and no. It’s up to the individual. If you feel you need such help then use it. Trained professionals can help break down resistance and barriers (and can also do the opposite), they can be there for you, be a friend or 'helping witness' when you need to speak about all the bad stuff that comes up. And all good therapy employs these same principles I'm talking about in regards to what you need to do to heal your childhood repression. So of lot of it might sound familiar to someone who's done a lot of work on themselves. Eventually you will become self-revealing and self-reliant without needing such outside help. Your friend will be your partner or someone close to you in your personal life and you’ll be able to work through all your issues with them. And in fact in the end, to fully heal all your negative state, if that is what you want, you will ONLY be able to achieve this through living intimately with someone else. You lived intimately with your parents when you were forming, and so you will need the same closeness and familiarity and someone wanting to help you and be on your side, to enable you to complete all your childhood repression healing. Just visiting a therapist by-weekly will not be enough. You will need to be able to speak to someone, there and then, about all your bad feelings as they come up at any time during the day or night, all so you can uncover the truth of them in the moment.
So speaking about all your feelings is the key to healing your childhood repression?
Yes, most definitely, and especially all your bad ones. We live denying our bad feelings (and you'll find also some or even a lot of good ones) and yet they are the key to leading us back into and connecting with all the bad feelings we are denying from our early life. So to heal our childhood repression we need to do the opposite, we need to accept our bad feelings, and we do this by speaking about them. By allowing ourselves to really feel them, to express them fully. And then as we want to find out why we’re feeling bad, we need to long for the TRUTH of such feelings, which when longed for sincerely, eventaully does come. And so the truth of our negative state slowly comes to us, the truth of our relationship with our parents and early carers. And as we uncover the truth we set ourselves free from our negative patterns and unloving way of life.
And accepting your feelings is an act of self-love?
Yes, and whilst in our love-denying states, it’s the greatest way we can love ourselves - accepting all our feelings. Our feelings are our self, so if we accept them, we’re accepting and loving ourselves. If we deny them, we’re not accepting so not loving ourselves. Many of the so-called things we do as attempts to increase our self-love we do using our mind, but if you look closely at them, really they are done at the expense of other feelings, all being done to keep the bad feelings away, so are not self-loving, but more self-denial.
I guess not many people would want to see the truth of their early life?
No, as it’s full of pain and mostly not what they’d expect. We’ve deliberately forced ourselves to shut out and block off all the bad stuff. We want to feel loved by our parents not unloved. We want to believe they love us, we don’t want to have to face the truth that they didn’t, or might not of as much as we wanted them to and believed they did. It’s said the truth hurts, and it only does because we live denying it. And when you go back through your bad feelings uncovering the truth of what really went on between you and your parents, it sure does hurt. However once you’ve expressed all the pain and revealed the whole truth, it no longer hurts. And you are healed and free of your negative mind and will state. You are no longer self-denying, and instead, being self-loving.
So we need to uncover and see the truth of our early life?
Absolutely. You can express bad feelings all day long, but if you don’t sincerely want to uncover the truth as to why you are feeling them, then you’re only letting off steam. It’s the seeing of the truth, which you can only see once you’ve fully acknowledged, accepted and expressed all your bad feelings, that sets you free of your negative patterns. And we don’t have do anything other than see the truth. And it’s an incredible mysterious process, for when the truth comes up in you, you know you are no longer afflicted with that problem. You just know. And gradually your life shows you this to be so, as you change becoming of a positive mind and will.
If I am correct, or it's the impression I got from reading her work, Alice Miller says she finished her childhood repression healing, yet she doesn’t mention anything about our whole way of life, our whole state of being, being negative, wrong, bad and so evil?
No, from what I have read that she’s written it doesn’t appear that she appreciates the bigger picture. From what I can see, she refuses to look at it from a spiritual perspective. And as to whether or not she has finished her childhood repression healing, that is not for me to say, however personally I think she’s healed some aspects of it, but not all. Because had she healed it all, she would have written more books about the whole negative state.
And you say we're evil?
Yes, technically from a spiritual point of view, if we live denying the full expression of any part of our personality, then we’re evil. We’re not being true - true to ourselves; and we're not being loving, truly self-loving by denying these aspects of our self - our feelings. And something that is not truly loving is evil, the opposite to loving. So you see the horror we all live, which we have to one day wake up to, is that we’re conceived into evil, because our parents weren’t fully self-loving as they denied many of their bad feelings as they were parenting us, all as a result of being parented by their feeling-denying parents. So humanity has been passing this self-denying, negative, unloving, and so evil, condition on down through the ages, and for a very long time. And we accept it as normal life, but it’s not normal, something we come to see and indeed feel as we heal our evil state, our untruth and un-lovingness, by healing our childhood repression.
And there are two ways you can heal your childhood repression?
Yes, with one being inclusive of the other. You can do what I call your Feeling-Healing, which doesn’t directly include or involve God; or you can do what I call your Soul-Healing that does personally include and involve God and God’s Divine Love. And the doing of your soul-healing includes the doing of your feeling-healing. For people who don’t want to include God I would advise them to focus on doing only their feeling-healing. For people who want to include God, do your soul-healing, however also bear in mind that to do so will challenge every spiritual belief you have most of which you will have to eventually discard as being merely rubbish. If you do want to include God then I would suggest looking at Divine Love Spirituality, a newly revealed spirituality that is wholly based around doing your soul-healing and beginning your ascension of truth to Paradise.
How does our childhood repression form?
When you feel unloved, rejected, mistreated in any way, from conception through to around six or seven years old, you feel bad, and if you are not allowed to express these bad feelings, if you are in any way forced to suppress them, they remain repressed within you.
How do they remain repressed?
Throughout your forming years as a child coming into being you are developing mental, emotional, spiritual and behavioural patterns, these being based on your experiences of life. If any of these patterns are negative, that being formed because of feeling unloved, unwanted, uncared about - rejection patterns, then such negative patterns will remain within you demanding to be fulfilled, just as will any positive ones that will have formed because you felt loved, wanted and cared about.
So these negative and positive patterns developed during our forming years, affect our adult life?
Yes. However mostly we’re unaware of them doing so. And in fact ALL of our adult life is affected by them. They are our foundation, it can’t be other wise. Once our base patterns have been formed we can still add and subtract other ones as we move through adolescents and adulthood, however these are ‘on the top of’ and can’t affect those we’ve formed through our early childhood. Many people becoming aware of negative effects from some of their early childhood patterns do all sorts of things to bring in so-called ‘positive’ patterns (beliefs and behaviours) using their minds in the hope of counteracting the negative. And some people feel they succeed in this. However it’s not true healing, as still and buried even deeper under such added false patterns, are your early childhood ones.
So we can use our mind to nullify our negative early childhood parenting effects?
You can believe you can, and to some extent your life might show you that you’re being 'successful' in doing so, but at some point the whole house of cards is going to come crashing down. You can only try and run away from your repressed childhood feelings for so long, one day they will catch up with you. One day you will be made to face the truth of them.
Do we all have repressed childhood feelings within us affecting our adult lives?
Yes. Some people seem to have had a ‘worse’ more unloving childhood than others, and it’s more obvious looking at their adult lives that such a ‘bad start’ is heavily affecting them, but with other people it’s not so obvious. Some people seem able to cope and be successful in life, others can’t no matter what they try and do, and this is all simply the outworking and expression of their early childhood - how it was for them. If they were successful, however they define success, in their early life (usually meaning they were able to have some power within their family or life), then they gain the same success (have the same power) during their adult lives. If they felt too powerless during their early life and couldn’t do anything to gain any power, then so it will be for them throughout their adult lives. The way someone has power or doesn't have it during their early childhood won't necessarily be the same on the surface during their adult life, however the underlying ingredients will be the same.
Some people have a really bad childhood being abused, beaten, and with obvious rejection, and yet they still become successful as adults, surely you’d think they’d be failures?
This is where you have to look more closely at what’s really going on and see what you define as success. They may have had such an obvious bad childhood but somewhere within it they were still able to get power. Their parents might have abused them, might not have paid any attention to them, but they might have been free to do things they wanted to do when not at home. They might have been able to gain power amongst their siblings or peers or have it over animals and nature, all of which set the patterns helping them manifest such power in later life. And you can also live in a family in which it appears all very loving and successful by society's standards and yet you as the child were kept powerless, so you grow up unable to make anything of your life, being an abject failure in all respects. And of course, it's not just a matter of judging success in material terms.
So it’s all about power?
Yes. If you feel loved then naturally you feel your own natural power, you feel good, happy, confident and secure. You are able to freely and fully express all you think and feel in life. And your will being so empowered will be able to bring about all that you feel you would like to do. If you feel unloved in any way and on any level then your will will not have formed fully expressing positive patterns, and your negative patterns will make you feel powerless, insecure, unconfident and unable to manifest in life that which you want. Things simply won’t go right for you on a feeling level, and you won’t feel good, happy and fulfilled - loved, all the time. It's really all about feelings.
What does it mean when it’s said we’re all living in a negative self-denying state of mind and will?
That’s the condition we live in on Earth. It’s been brought about over the ages because of certain negative spirit influences that affected humanity long ago. It’s the legacy we now live under and we don’t understand it. Mostly we believe what life is, how we live it, is right, and if we don’t feel good or things don’t work for us, we do whatever we can to feel better and make them work. Only we don’t understand that all we call life, is living in the negative, it’s all self and feeling denying. It’s not right. Nothing of how we are and how we live is right. It’s all wrong because we’re living in a negative unloving feeling-rejecting and so self-rejecting condition of mind and will. So no matter what we do (unless it’s healing our childhood repression) we are only exacerbating our condition, helping ourselves move deeper into our negative states.
So all that happens to us that makes us feel bad is brought about because of childhood repression?
Yes, it’s the ongoing manifestation of your negative patterns. The patterns formed during your early childhood must be fulfilled, good or bad. And so they are, that is how life manifests for us. And as overall we’re living trapped within a negative condition then everything we do will make us feel bad. Only mostly we don’t understand this or feel it to be so, as we keep doing all sorts of things to ourselves believing we enjoy doing such things and that such things are good for us, when they aren’t. Everything that makes you feel bad, be it an illness, a material or relationship problem; a physical, emotional, mental or spiritual pain, is all happening to you because of your self-rejecting negative unloving patterns that constitute your negative state and childhood repression.
But surely some things we do are good for us, and surely some things aren't negative - what about all the love and enjoyment I do feel in life?
If these good feelings are based on true positive patterns and beliefs formed during your early life, then sure, such things are good and will remain so as you work your way through healing all your bad feeling stuff. However if they are false good feelings, that being feelings you believe are good based on your early childhood patterns, then the truth of their falseness will be shown up. For example, you look forward to and relish your mornings cup of coffee, it makes you feel good, or so you believe. But it is really? And the truth of this you’ll uncover by seeking the truth of yourself through all your feelings - good and bad. And you might find out, which might greatly surprise you, that you are actually only drinking coffee because your father did, and in fact you yourself, when free of such a negative influence, don’t even like coffee, or might still like it, but feel you don’t want it, and that you’re better off not having it.
So we have to get sick and bad things have to happen to us as a result of our underlying negative childhood patterns?
Yes. We are endlessly repeating, cycling through, all that happened to us during our early life. Not cycling through the actual things that happened to us, but cycling through the same feelings, good and bad. So for example, when it's time to feel powerless again and in a specific way, life manifests the necessary experience for you resulting in you feeling powerless in this way. Only, as adults this all happens unconsciously, but as you use the bad feelings being generated in each experience to help you go back into and connect with your bad feelings you felt (and still feel) from your early life, then you’ll be able to see the truth of your powerlessness. How having that car accident and all the bad feelings you felt, all those feelings of feeling powerless, were exactly the same powerless feelings your parents made you feel when they did x,y and z to you. And it’s amazing when you re-connect and see. Then you understand that the car crash only happened to satisfy the condition of your life’s parenting patterns. Why things happen to you no longer remain a mystery - the eternal unknown. We are meant to live knowing why everything happens to us as every experience is meant to generate truth for us. And the only reason why we live so out of touch with ourselves, with our true feelings, is because we were forced away from our true selves unable to truly express all we felt and thought when we were young.
So we live our of touch with ourselves?
Yes. By living in an overall negative mind and will condition, and by denying so many bad feelings, we live untrue, superficial false lives full of pretence, fantasy, and unreality. Our whole world is this way. And we live on perpetuating our negative, evil, self-abusing unloving states of mind and will wondering why we don’t feel so good, and why things don't go right for us. We are so far away from our true selves, so out of touch with our true reality, so misguided, lost and so full of shit, that we have no real or true idea about what life is all about. And we never will until we heal our childhood repression.
So we only get sick because of our childhood repression?
Yes. If we were living true and real lives with a fully positive mind and will, fully and freely expressing all our personality - all of feelings, emotions and thoughts - why would we need to get sick, we’d be perfect! But as we’re living imperfectly in our negative states, so we need to get sick all as a function of our early childhood patterns. Our sickness and pains give rise to bad feelings - those same bad feelings we felt as young children, the same bad feelings we’ve always felt but stopped ourselves from feeling; those same bad feelings we’re continually suppressing and keeping repressed; those same bad feelings we feel now in our illness. ‘Catching the bug’, or your cells mutating giving rise to 'sick' cells, only happens to show you something is wrong, that some pattern (belief and behavioural - some level of your self-expression) in you is not functioning right, that you are living wrongly, wrong because it was how you were treated and so wrongly forced to live as a little child.
What should we do if we have a problem?
One of two things. Either try to deal with it to ‘make your life better’, better being defined by how you think life should be, which will only increase your negative state; or, use all the bad feelings that come up because of the problem to help you uncover the truth of why you have the problem, that being what happened to you during your forming years to create the pattern that is now manifesting this problem. And in uncovering the truth you will heal some part of your negative condition and mostly your problem will simply cease to be a problem, or your feelings will lead you to know how to correctly deal with it.
Can psychology help us heal with our childhood repression?
Some of it can depending on how it’s orientated. We can use it to help us cover up and hide the truth of our real causes and underlying problems, those from our early childhood that are causing us the problem we have in our adult life; or, we can use it to help us move deep into our repressed childhood feelings, helping us to accept them, bring them up and out by expressing - speaking - about them, all so we can reveal the truth to ourselves about what is causing them: how it was for us during our early life with our parents and carers - did they really love us or not. The healing of your childhood repression is one long exercise of uncovering the whole psychology of yourself, and that being currently - the psychology of your negative or unloving state. And when that's healed and you continue to grow in truth in a positive mind condition, it will involve the uncovering of the psychology of your loving state.
Do you need a psychologist or trained counsellor to help you heal your childhood repression?
Yes and no. It’s up to the individual. If you feel you need such help then use it. Trained professionals can help break down resistance and barriers (and can also do the opposite), they can be there for you, be a friend or 'helping witness' when you need to speak about all the bad stuff that comes up. And all good therapy employs these same principles I'm talking about in regards to what you need to do to heal your childhood repression. So of lot of it might sound familiar to someone who's done a lot of work on themselves. Eventually you will become self-revealing and self-reliant without needing such outside help. Your friend will be your partner or someone close to you in your personal life and you’ll be able to work through all your issues with them. And in fact in the end, to fully heal all your negative state, if that is what you want, you will ONLY be able to achieve this through living intimately with someone else. You lived intimately with your parents when you were forming, and so you will need the same closeness and familiarity and someone wanting to help you and be on your side, to enable you to complete all your childhood repression healing. Just visiting a therapist by-weekly will not be enough. You will need to be able to speak to someone, there and then, about all your bad feelings as they come up at any time during the day or night, all so you can uncover the truth of them in the moment.
So speaking about all your feelings is the key to healing your childhood repression?
Yes, most definitely, and especially all your bad ones. We live denying our bad feelings (and you'll find also some or even a lot of good ones) and yet they are the key to leading us back into and connecting with all the bad feelings we are denying from our early life. So to heal our childhood repression we need to do the opposite, we need to accept our bad feelings, and we do this by speaking about them. By allowing ourselves to really feel them, to express them fully. And then as we want to find out why we’re feeling bad, we need to long for the TRUTH of such feelings, which when longed for sincerely, eventaully does come. And so the truth of our negative state slowly comes to us, the truth of our relationship with our parents and early carers. And as we uncover the truth we set ourselves free from our negative patterns and unloving way of life.
And accepting your feelings is an act of self-love?
Yes, and whilst in our love-denying states, it’s the greatest way we can love ourselves - accepting all our feelings. Our feelings are our self, so if we accept them, we’re accepting and loving ourselves. If we deny them, we’re not accepting so not loving ourselves. Many of the so-called things we do as attempts to increase our self-love we do using our mind, but if you look closely at them, really they are done at the expense of other feelings, all being done to keep the bad feelings away, so are not self-loving, but more self-denial.
I guess not many people would want to see the truth of their early life?
No, as it’s full of pain and mostly not what they’d expect. We’ve deliberately forced ourselves to shut out and block off all the bad stuff. We want to feel loved by our parents not unloved. We want to believe they love us, we don’t want to have to face the truth that they didn’t, or might not of as much as we wanted them to and believed they did. It’s said the truth hurts, and it only does because we live denying it. And when you go back through your bad feelings uncovering the truth of what really went on between you and your parents, it sure does hurt. However once you’ve expressed all the pain and revealed the whole truth, it no longer hurts. And you are healed and free of your negative mind and will state. You are no longer self-denying, and instead, being self-loving.
So we need to uncover and see the truth of our early life?
Absolutely. You can express bad feelings all day long, but if you don’t sincerely want to uncover the truth as to why you are feeling them, then you’re only letting off steam. It’s the seeing of the truth, which you can only see once you’ve fully acknowledged, accepted and expressed all your bad feelings, that sets you free of your negative patterns. And we don’t have do anything other than see the truth. And it’s an incredible mysterious process, for when the truth comes up in you, you know you are no longer afflicted with that problem. You just know. And gradually your life shows you this to be so, as you change becoming of a positive mind and will.
If I am correct, or it's the impression I got from reading her work, Alice Miller says she finished her childhood repression healing, yet she doesn’t mention anything about our whole way of life, our whole state of being, being negative, wrong, bad and so evil?
No, from what I have read that she’s written it doesn’t appear that she appreciates the bigger picture. From what I can see, she refuses to look at it from a spiritual perspective. And as to whether or not she has finished her childhood repression healing, that is not for me to say, however personally I think she’s healed some aspects of it, but not all. Because had she healed it all, she would have written more books about the whole negative state.
And you say we're evil?
Yes, technically from a spiritual point of view, if we live denying the full expression of any part of our personality, then we’re evil. We’re not being true - true to ourselves; and we're not being loving, truly self-loving by denying these aspects of our self - our feelings. And something that is not truly loving is evil, the opposite to loving. So you see the horror we all live, which we have to one day wake up to, is that we’re conceived into evil, because our parents weren’t fully self-loving as they denied many of their bad feelings as they were parenting us, all as a result of being parented by their feeling-denying parents. So humanity has been passing this self-denying, negative, unloving, and so evil, condition on down through the ages, and for a very long time. And we accept it as normal life, but it’s not normal, something we come to see and indeed feel as we heal our evil state, our untruth and un-lovingness, by healing our childhood repression.
And there are two ways you can heal your childhood repression?
Yes, with one being inclusive of the other. You can do what I call your Feeling-Healing, which doesn’t directly include or involve God; or you can do what I call your Soul-Healing that does personally include and involve God and God’s Divine Love. And the doing of your soul-healing includes the doing of your feeling-healing. For people who don’t want to include God I would advise them to focus on doing only their feeling-healing. For people who want to include God, do your soul-healing, however also bear in mind that to do so will challenge every spiritual belief you have most of which you will have to eventually discard as being merely rubbish. If you do want to include God then I would suggest looking at Divine Love Spirituality, a newly revealed spirituality that is wholly based around doing your soul-healing and beginning your ascension of truth to Paradise.
There’s zillions of unexpressed feelings inside you waiting to be expressed.
And they've all got to come out - one day.
And they've all got to come out - one day.