feelings
Feeling, feeling, feelings - always more feelings.
Speak about your FEELINGS! Nothing else matters.
Speak about your FEELINGS! Nothing else matters.
Feelings
Feelings are for the moment, they come and go. And they only persist if we don’t express them. If we do express them, then they last as long as we need to speak about them to uncover their truth - to bring into being another aspect of our personality. Every feeling we have, no matter how small or large, how weak or strong, does in some way help us to get to know ourselves better, and this is what life is meant to be about. Not how much money we can make, what career we can have, what we can do to provide ourselves with a desired standard of living. Life is really only about feelings, with all else supporting them, as they are the gateways to truth - and to the truth of all that we are, which in turn leads us to the truth of all that there is - God. Feelings are the part of us that is free, we are free to feel, and they are free to come and go, they are not cast in stone once we’ve had them, they are transient, illusive and really uncontrollable. Feelings are accepting, unconditional, non-controlling, they just are what they are: feelings. Beliefs are however, something entirely different. Beliefs are things we develop with our mind through our experiences of feelings. Beliefs are not feelings, we can’t feel a belief. Beliefs are solid in that once formed they are real, like a ‘living’ circuit and many of them come together to constitute our mind, conscious and unconscious, our mind being the platform upon which we live. And then we put beliefs together to create our behaviour. So we look to or at our behaviour and upon questioning it, we can seek what beliefs constitute it. And we can do this all through our feelings, by seeking the truth of them. Our beliefs are formed from conception and come about determined by what we feel; what we feel being determined by how we’re treated, whether or not we feel loved; with feeling loved being determined by feeling accepted, wanted and cared about. In our first moment we feel, and even though we might not be fully mind aware or conscious of such primary feelings, we still feel. And as we grow in truth coming to understand all about ourselves we can ‘go back’ in a sense through our feelings, to bring into our present mind state and consciousness what it was we did feel. And so too, can we through these feelings and their truth, understand what beliefs were coming into being at the same time. And then we can apply this to every moment of our life. Part of our ‘design’ is to form during what we commonly call our ‘forming years’ - those years from conception until our mind if fully up and running, all circuits formed and firing so to speak. And during this time many beliefs also form becoming our ongoing foundation of life. Our mental spiritual structure - the mental or mind equivalent of our physical body - is made up of many beliefs all of which determine how we express our personality, how we can keep bringing aspects of ourselves into being, into Creation. And so if this foundation is flawed, meaning it’s composed of negative beliefs, or beliefs that are self-denying, meaning they stop ourselves from expressing all the different aspects of our personality and prevent us from growing in truth and so evolving this personality expression, then gradually our whole being effectively ‘slows down’ eventually grinding to a halt. We can only deny our spirit or life-force and life-essence so far, and as we do the resultant feelings are bad ones; simply, we feel bad. When we are living untrue to our personality expression, to our ongoing progression and ascent of truth, we feel bad. So our beliefs, the mental part of us, provides us with the structure within which we relate to and experience life, within which we can feel. So our physical body, although being as we know it - of flesh and blood, is really on other levels composed of beliefs, mental structures, designed to help us experience so we can feel. Our mind and its beliefs are really there to serve our feelings so we can find the truth. And once the truth is found we can then align our beliefs around it, keeping them true and correct all so we can keep feeling all we need to so as to keep evolving in truth. So really our feeling-system and our belief-system are both different aspects of our mind, all there to help us grow in truth. But in our negative mind and will condition many of our beliefs are wrong and untrue, so the feelings we feel are also untrue, or not ‘real’ feelings, and we don’t use them to help us uncover the truth, so we limit and all but stop our ongoing personality expression. And we can see examples of this in ourselves, so many of us tend to ‘solidify’ as we grow older, our beliefs becoming increasing fixed and we become very resistant to change. We all but shrivel up with old age, then die entering our spirit life a dried up prune having stopped allowing ourselves to progressively live throughout our lives growing in truth, understanding and greater awareness about ourselves, nature and God. And we don’t enter our spirit life still free to evolve the expression of our personality as we grow in truth through our feeling-experiences. From accounts of many peoples spirit lives, they become lost, trapped and confined to the lower planes unaware in many instances that they’ve even died! Whereas other people who aren’t so fixed and bound up in their beliefs, being somewhat freer to follow and express their feelings, changing and adapting to new beliefs, see their death and even relish it as the beginning of a new phase of their eternal existence. We can use our mind to try and control and change our feelings. Many things in self-help areas are about trying to help people do this. ‘Don’t feel bad, make yourself feel good, you can after all create your own reality’, so it is said. ‘Have a positive mental attitude, and look on the bright side.’ But such things are all only adding yet more negative beliefs to ones already overloaded negative system, and so although in the short term one may feel better about oneself, in the long term you’re only going to feel worse. To live a feeling-led life is to use your feelings first of all to heal your negative state, to heal your childhood repression, all that’s within you keeping your early negative beliefs and their resulting behaviours in place. And the healing means you break down the negative wrong untrue beliefs replacing them with right and true ones, all so you then have a positive mental foundation upon which to continue expressing and feeling your feelings and growing in truth. But to break down such ingrained beliefs and to see the truth of their behaviour is a gruelling experience. Imagine that you are a tree that has grown up subject to a constant wind from one direction. Your whole being would express this force on you, you’d be naturally looking quite deformed, and although still a functioning tree, you are not as you would have been had no such outside force exerted itself on you through your forming years. You wouldn’t be a tree in all it’s natural true tree-beauty. And imagine if you could slowly apply an equal force in the opposite direction bending you back into an upright position, imagine how hard it would be to do that to a tree that is all but fully formed. It simply couldn’t be done, the damage has all ready happened. Yet we, thankfully, are not trees. And for many of us, an all but constant unremitting and detrimental force was applied to us during our forming years. And for some of us, on the surface we still seemed to have grown into relatively normal looking adults. But inside, if only we could see and understand, really we’re very deformed. And then there are some of us who’s soul reflects this deformity physically. So really we are the bent and twisted tree inside, and our feeling-healing is all about slowly bringing us back into perfection, back to a state of being that we would have been expressing had we been subjected to love and positive minded and willed parenting. And to right all the wrong that is within us - that we are, is a huge experience. There are an awful lot of wrong beliefs within us controlling our daily lives and all we allow ourselves to feel. Our feelings we’ve been made to fear, when really they are all our friends, even our bad ones. We only feel bad when something is happening to us that’s making us feel powerless in some way, and so we should be able to express them bringing us back into feeling powerful and good. All that we feel is good for us to feel - not bad. And yet we’ve been made to wrongly believe that many of our bad feelings are bad - that we are bad. But we’re not bad, only our parents believed we were - they said we were or made us feel we were. So our bad feeling are in fact GOOD feelings. So feeling bad is GOOD! And our healing is about ending our self-rejection and becoming truly self-loving and self-accepting. Becoming: accepting, unconditional, non-controlling... and truly - free. Just like our feelings. |
Stop living for the future. Speak about your feelings NOW!
The bad things happening in your life making you feel bad are only doing so in response to your unconscious negative patterns, those established within you during your early childhood.
The bad things are making you feel as you have always felt, only you have told yourself that you don’t feel that way. The bad things are happening to make you feel bad so you can use them to uncover the truth of what’s really going on within you. I want to express myself - to the other person. Focus on feelings - I am important in everything I say. Check to ensure I get the correct responses from the other person.
Put your feeling into expressing your feeling. If it’s a good feeling say it feeling good, emote all the emotion of your feeling into your words, say it with feeling, not just as a mental statement.
Not: I feel good..., but: I FEEEELLLL GOOOOD!... And the same with a bad feeling. Not: I feel angry...., but: Ugh, I FEEL SO ANGRY! We selectively deny certain feelings. The ones we don’t like we dismiss and quickly get rid of. The ones we like we hold onto for dear life.
Most people can easily express their surface feelings, knowing what makes them feel good and bad, what’s right and wrong.
However it’s the deeper repressed feelings that we use our surface feelings to hide and keep suppressed that need to be fully acknowledged and brought out. It’s through these denied deeper feelings that the truth of our childhood repression lies. We’re always meant to be healthy - why? Why can’t we be sick if we are sick. We’re meant to do all we can to stay alive - why? Why can’t we die.
As soon as we see weakness (which protects us), we’re supposed to conquer and destroy it. Any sign of weakness is bad. We are not meant to honour and know our limitations as defined by our bad feelings, we’re supposed to push on right through them, be strong and never give in - override them and so override yourself. We’re not meant to allow anything or anyone to get the better of us, we’re meant to always be the winner.
Through your feelings you’ll reveal the truth of everything - the truth of all that you, all that you have experienced, all good and bad that’s gone into making you as you are.
THE TRUTH IS IN YOUR FEELINGS!
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You have the right to feel the way you feel!